Probably one of our favorite parts of Engagement Matters was the talk by Kelly and Ryan. It gave us a very raw, real, and funny view inside a marriage that we often don't get to see. Now we regularly ask "What's your beef?" at the beginning of a conversation, to get out what we need out of each other in a relationship, without letting it boil into an argument or letting it come up when we're heated. By giving an open opportunity to air a grievance in a conversation, it's more practical and logical and open, as opposed to being emotional and argumentative.