Free Resources
Marriage Matters with Paul and Virginia Friesen
Paul and Virginia spoke at Faith Church in Chandler, AZ, on May 19, 2024. On Sunday morning they participated in a Q-&-A session on marriage matters. Watch the 45-minute video here.
growing godly kids
Paul and Virginia speak at a parenting night for Maranatha Chapel in Rancho Bernardo, CA. In two sessions they focus on the importance of living a life worth imitating, living a life of unconditional love, living a life that embraces the goodness of authority, and living a life of expectation. A free PDF outline for this talk can be downloaded here.
sacrificial love in marriage
Paul and Virginia speak at a marriage night for Maranatha Chapel in Rancho Bernardo, CA. In two sessions they focus on the importance of “Sacrificial Love” in marriage and expressing “Love and Respect” in marriage. They focus on Genesis 3 on the fall as the origin of the misuse of power in marriage and how Ephesians 5:22-33 is the antidote to the fall and is able to restore us to more of the relationship we were designed to enjoy. A free PDF outline for this talk can be downloaded here.
from paralysis to praise
Paul and Virginia speak at the worship services for Maranatha Chapel in Rancho Bernardo, CA. The sermon is entitled “From Paralysis to Praise” and looks at the story of Jesus healing the paralytic. found in Mark 2:1-12. We are encouraged to consider "who are our friends and where are they taking us?" as well as to acknowledge that “Jesus meets our greatest needs.”
Raising Children Who Practice Justice, Love Mercy, and Walk Humbly With God
In this discussion with NFL star Matthew Slater and his wife Dr. Shahrzad Slater, Paul and Virginia Friesen explore the importance of the centrality of the Gospel as we strive to be Christ-centered in these days. They focus specifically on how to live as a Christ follower in the currently charged culture regarding racial issues and how to convey these truths to our children.
Two Great Needs in Marriage
In this 3-part recording of a marriage seminar given February 6, 2021, by Drs. Paul and Virginia Friesen, they speak to two great needs in marriage: Love and Respect.
A free downloadable PDF outline of their talk is available here.
Session One
Session Two
Session Three
Question and Answer Sessions
Parenting during a Pandemic
In this video recording of a virtual parenting seminar given October 26, 2020, Paul and Virginia Friesen offer guidance and encouragement for how to parent during a pandemic. Life is so different! How can we use this time to model for our children God's design for families?
A free downloadable PDF outline of their talk is available here.
Virtual Family Camp 2020
Bring your family along to HIM Family Camp this year…virtually! All the resources you need to lead your family in a time of learning and celebration together are provided on our VFC homepage. Pick your own schedule, pick your own pace… but please join us on this journey as we study the story of Caleb and the children of Israel as told in the book of Numbers. Tell your friends about virtual family camp, too!
Paul reflects on COVID-19
Paul Friesen is giving a series of short (3-min) video talks each day on the subject of “Relational Health during COVID-19":
April 14, 2020: Introduction
April 15, 2020: Expectations
April 16, 2020: Sacrificial Love
April 17, 2020: Temperaments
April 18, 2020: Encouragement
April 19, 2020: Beneficial Words
April 20, 2020: Social Distancing
April 21, 2020: Joy
April 22, 2020: Fun
April 23, 2020: Table Time
April 24, 2020: Spiritual Life
April 25, 2020: Emotional Connection
April 26, 2020: Physical Intimacy
Brant and Sherri Oddcast Podcast
Paul and Virginia Friesen were interviewed by Brant Hansen’s “oddcast," hosted by Brant Hansen and producer Sherri:
December 10, 2019: “A Thriving Marriage, Pt. 1”
December 11, 2019: “A Thriving Marriage, Pt. 2”
Men in the arena Podcast
Paul Friesen was interviewed on the Men in the Arena podcast, hosted by Jim Ramos and Dale Collver:
November 21, 2019: “The 8 Cow Wife”
Power Couples ROck Podcast
Paul and Virginia Friesen were interviewed on the Power Couples Rock podcast, hosted by Carlos, Katherine, Chris, and Sonya:
November 12, 2019: “God’s Design For Marriage”
Articles posted at the Center for Marriage and Relationships
The Biola University Center for Marriage & Relationships has invited Paul Friesen to write a number of guest posts on their blog:
August 13, 2019: “The Never-Ending Argument: How to Settle It”
April 16, 2019: “Our Friends Want to Divorce: How Can We Help?”
January 29, 2019: “4 Things Men Need from Other Men (that they can’t get from women)”
March 13, 2018: “Life for Your Marriage After an Affair (Part II)”
February 27, 2018: “Life for Your Marriage After an Affair (Part I)”
September 27, 2016: “Before You Save the Date: 21 questions to help you marry with confidence”
Podcasts at the Center for Marriage and Relationships
Paul and Virginia Friesen were guests on the Biola University Center for Marriage & Relationships’s “The Art of Relationships” podcast:
November 9, 2016: “How to Marry with Confidence (Part 1)”
November 23, 2016: “How to Marry with Confidence (Part 2)”
Article: "Why Geocachers Make Great Mates"
One of our board members, Doug Macrae, is an avid geocacher, and he encouraged Paul to write an article on marriage for FTF, a popular geocaching magazine. Read the article here. The article was then featured in a geocaching podcast.
Worth It resources page
Click here to be taken to the free resources page for the Worth It Purity Conference.
A Free App to strengthen your marriage
A collection of videos of talks by Paul and Virginia Friesen,
recorded by others, available on YouTube or Vimeo.
Short video clips on the subject of parenting, by Paul and Virginia Friesen
Parenting By Design: Confident parenting through adherence to God’s Word
Though the simplest of items comes complete with a booklet of instructions, new parents are ushered out of the hospital with a package of Pampers and best wishes. How good that our Heavenly Father has given us His Word with His instructions for raising children to have a heart for Him!
Parenting By Design: Creating an environment helpful to our children choosing Christ
Though we are not determinative in our children’s faith, we are called to create an atmosphere most conducive to their wanting to follow Christ.
Parenting By Design: Being intentional in developing values in our children
We are often more intentional about our children’s educational choices than strategically planning what would give them the best development spiritually.
Parenting By Design: Loving unconditionally without enabling sinful behavior
It is important to express unconditional love to our children while disciplining them for disobedience.
Parenting By Design: Teaching our children respect for authority
While showing our children unconditional love, we must also teach them respect for the authority God has established for us as parents, for those over us, and ultimately for the Lord.
Parenting By Design: Modeling a commitment to obeying God’s Word
We must not only teach our children to obey God’s Word, but show them our willingness to obey God’s Word even when it costs us personally.
Parenting By Design: Focusing on inward convictions over outward compliance
It is tempting for us as parents to be more concerned how our children behave on the outside than to build internal integrity and convictions on the inside.
Parenting By Design: Developing character to withstand life’s challenges
While our children are home, we can use “parental control” to a great extent. Our job is to help them have internal convictions that will stand when the storms of peer pressure or temptation are raging.
Parenting By Design: Teaching financial responsibility
We as parents are to teach absolute biblical truths to our children, but we are also to model for them the values that we have as a family and wish them to emulate.
A talk on communicating intimately in marriage, given by Paul and Virginia Friesen at the Eusebeia 1000 Marriage Conference in Columbia, Maryland, October 2018.