Our biggest takeaway in Engagement Matters was the segment regarding husband and wife roles in a marriage, and had the most profound impact on our relationship. Previously, I was hesitant to define myself as a person who was submissive in a relationship, or to define myself as a helper, like God created Eve to be to Adam, but I truly feel like once the definition was explained of how God intends the husband and wife roles to be in a marriage, it transformed my idea of what being a Godly wife was. I ended up following up Engagement Matters by watching a video segment in the Story of Marriage series, and sharing it with my fiancé, where the couple describes a husband and a wife like the verse in 1 Peter, "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered." They made a point to emphasize that 'weaker vessel' does not mean smaller, of less volume or less value, just more fragile and more delicate. It perfectly complimented Paul and Virginia's emphasis on the husband's role as a leader, and the wife's role as a supporter, with the man being called to love, and the woman being called to respect, as perfectly summed up in Ephesians 5. We willingly and gladly now seek to fulfill these roles in our relationship with one another.